I am a gay but discrit my crush is straight
My father was queer . He was born in 1918. In my 20s, he started telling me stories about his early life. He was out in the 1930s at a time when it wasn’t usual. He had dreams that most would not believe he dared to hope. The problem with my dad telling me all of this was that he was still married to my mother.
In 1939, at a party in the Hollywood Hills with gay filmmakers and musicians, he was arrested. Police officers handcuffed the men, herded them into a van, and took them to jail. The following morning, he appeared before a judge for sentencing. Because the arresting officer couldn’t swear that he saw him touching his dance partner, he was released.
Then he was caught up in an illegal sting operation in Pasadena that targeted gay men. They were extorted by the police for cash payments in return for conditional release. His dreams of being a schoolteacher and living with his crush were destroyed.
As Planet War II loomed, he attempted to enlist in the U.S. Navy, but he was rejected when his document revealed that he was gay. The Army eventually standard him, perhaps because war was imminent and able-bodied men, even gay ones, were needed.
Before my father shipped
The chokehold the ‘Am I Gay’ quiz had on my younger years
As a young closeted queer child in a heteronormative society, there was nothing more crushing yet eye-opening than finding out you’re gay from the aptly-named “Am I Gay” Internet quiz.
I was 12 years old and in seventh grade when I first took the dastardly question. Before this, I was a normal kid that did normal kid things — or at least I thought so. I had a crush on Katniss Everdeen from “The Hunger Games.” In my elementary school playground, I was wedded to one of my girl top friends in a fabulous fairy-themed wedding. All of my many girl friends attended, while the boys were out in the grass playing soccer. Looking back on these memories, I realized that there was definitely something a little different about me.
There are many “Am I Gay” quizzes, and it’s both funny and depressed how they are put up. Of course, there are the lighthearted ones that play more into Queer stereotypes, like asking whether “You Belong With Me” or “Blank Space” is the better Taylor Swift song or how many items of clothing one has in their closet. Other quizzes are blunter: “Have you ever wanted to kiss someone of the same gender?” “Have
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Is it CompHet or Sexual Orientation OCD?
If you’re an avid social media user, you may possess come across the term “comphet” on your feed. On TikTok, videos using #comphet have calm over 100 million views. Often, wading through conversations about comphet—short for “compulsory heterosexuality”—leads to more confusion than clarity, which can be especially frustrating if you’re someone who is trying to make sense of your own thoughts about your sexuality or sexual orientation.
To give you a quick rundown, comphet is a theory that describes the pressure people may feel to conform to heterosexual norms, because failing to adhere to them is deemed abnormal, deviant, and, in most cases, not even an option.
So, without further ado, let’s dig a bit deeper into comphet and grab a look at sexual orientation OCD (SO-OCD), a subtype of obsessive-compulsive disorder that some might mistake for comphet.
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What is comphet?
Compulsory heterosexuality, or comphet, is the thought that there’s an implicit pressure for people who don’t identify as vertical to conform
Stanley Tucci has survived the icy death stare of Meryl Streep's Miranda Priestly and told Cher to her face that she looks like a kingly queen. Aside from starring as the queer second-in-command next to those queer icons in "The Devil Wear Prada" and "Burlesque," the 60-year-old actor also donned a poofy wig in "Little Chaos" as the king's gay brother.
The chameleonic actor is at it yet again with his latest gay role — Tusker in "Supernova," a moving portrait of a couple in crisis written and directed by Harry Macqueen. Here, he portrays a man suffering from early-onset dementia alongside Colin Firth's Sam, his partner of 20 years.
Aboard their old RV, the couple head out on a road trip across the mountainous region of England's Lake District to visit people and places that are special to them, their love tested as Tusker's memory continues to deteriorate.
During a recent call, Tucci talked about being a straight guy who's been playing homosexual since 1996, his wife finding out that the internet thinks he's same-sex attracted, and how he can't believe so many people actually tell him they love "Burlesque."
During the pandemic, I watched "The Daytrippers," which came out in 1996,