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Dear How to Do It,
If a straight man receives oral from a transgender or gay man does that make the linear man gay? Asking for … a friend.
—Not My Friend
Dear NMF,
I don’t understand, you tell me. Was the head so wonderful that it made you (I mean your friend) gay?
I doubt it. In response to your question, I am inclined to wax philosophical about the spectrum of sexuality and the pros and cons of declaring an attendant identity. And while I think that everyone should be doing a tiny more thinking than they already are, especially about sex, given your rather (no offense) rudimentary ask, I don’t want to bog yo
HIV transmission among gay men through oral sex and other uncommon routes: case series of HIV seroconverters, Sydney
AIDS 2003; 17(15):2269-2271 RESEARCH LETTERS
Juliet Richtersa; Andrew Grulichb; Jeanne Ellarda; Olympia Hendryb; Susan Kippaxa
aNational Centre in HIV Social Research, and bNational Centre in HIV Epidemiology and Clinical Research, University of New South Wales, Sydney, NSW 2052, Australia.
Summary: Seventy-five homosexual men with recently acquired HIV were interviewed about their peril behaviour. Fifty-nine reported unprotected anal intercourse, and one mutual injecting equipment, with a partner not known to be HIV negative. Of the remaining 15, 11 reported protected anal intercourse. In five of the 15 we judged oral sex to be the most likely source of infection, including three men who had a genital piercing. The possible transmission risk from genital piercing should be investigated.
Among homosexual men, unprotected receptive anal intercourse poses the utmost risk of HIV transmission. Although it is agreed that the risk of transmission through oral sex is small, t
Sexual health for same-sex attracted and bisexual men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to pass on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps guard against HIV and lowers the risk of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone unused, you should have an STI and HIV examine every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is important, as some STIs do not generate any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can receive it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated food and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can materialize up to 8 weeks after sex and contain tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a entire recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can escape getting hepatitis A by:
washing hands after sex (bottom, groin a
A Brave New Society of Oral Sex
This week, I respond a question that I received from a pair of male friends.
[We're] new at this. We both were wondering why homosexual men have oral sex? The two of us are considering doing it [for the first time] and wish to know if it is protected. I have tasted my own cum after masturbating, and it tasted salty. Will his also?
I think it's superb that you two are exploring both the nature of your desires and the potential risks before trying something new. This warms my little sex-educator heart.
To get an answer to the first part of your question about why men might have oral sex with each other, I collected responses from a petty group of guys who identify as gay, bisexual, gender non-conforming, or simply men who have sexual contact with other men. Their comments ranged from the slightly snarky ("Why do rabbits ingest carrots?") to the philosophical ("Why does anyone have oral sex?").
One theme that emerged was that oral sex can be pleasurable for men of any sexual orientation, not just gay men. Oral sex isn't something that only gay men relax, nor is it something that all gay men appreciate. For gay, bi or straight men, giving or receiving a blow position can be sizzling for many
Q: I am a 24-year-old straight guy who recently broke up with my girlfriend of more than four years. One of the reasons we broke up was a general lack of sexual compatibility. She had a particular aversion to oral sex—both giving and receiving. I didn’t get a blow job the whole time we were together. Which brings me to why I am writing: One of my closest friends, “Sam,” is a gay guy. Shortly after breaking up with my girlfriend, I was discussing my lack of oral sex with him and he said he’d be willing to “help me out.” I agreed, and Sam gave me an earth-shattering blow job. I was glad to obtain some and had no hang-ups about a guy sucking me. Since then, Sam has blown me three more times. My problem is I am starting to feel ashamed and worry I am using Sam. He’s a very good buddy, and I’m concerned this lopsided sexual arrangement might be bad for our friendship. Sam knows I am not into guys and I’m never going to reciprocate, and I undergo like this is probably not really fair to him. But these are literally the only burst jobs I’ve received since I was a teenager. What should I do? —Totally Have Reservations Over Advantage